Can my Relationships Survive Politics?- Friendships with Those We Don’t Agree with Politically.
There is no doubt we are living during times when many of us look at our neighbors, friends, and colleagues with scrutiny as we question how they casted their vote during the recent presidential election. For most people who are in our circle, we know where they stand and who they voted for. However, it […]
The Wounds of Black Single Parenting
Although I’m not a single mom, I’m a child of one. Therefore, I witnessed, first-hand, the stress and pain that single moms often experience. My mother did not plan to raise me alone, but it happened, and she did what she had to do. I watched as she sometimes worked two to three jobs to keep poverty away from […]
Detached Love!
Love with Detachment One of the most freeing principles I have learned is love with detachment/detached love. If only I had learned this principle a lot earlier in my life, it would have prevented lots of grief and heartache. Here is why love with detachment is important; Often, when we are in relationships, we assign […]
Signs You Inner Child is Hurting and How to Soothe Her
Shamon and I have been married for 17 years. For many of those years, we held inside of ourselves a wounded inner child who would show up when we were hurt, disappointed, or frustrated. For me, she showed up when I felt unseen, unheard, or criticized. For Shamon, he showed up when he felt disrespected, […]
Sis, Stop Holding a Grudge
I used to have an issue with forgiveness. I used to hold grudges like no other. I would completely stop speaking to my offender because I wanted to let them know I hated them and no longer messed with them. But here’s what I learned: Unforgiveness leads to bitterness which causes one to become endlessly […]
Black Women Do We Take Things Personally?
Recently, I was talking to a friend who has a nine-year-old son. She was worried because her son was experiencing a sharp pain in his left side that her doctor was unsure of. As we were talking, she mentioned that she was afraid it was something serious which was her worst fear. I responded by […]
When Black Women Fight and Attachment Trauma
If you have been following me for some time or know me in real life, you understand that my passion is to support black women and to help all women understand and value emotional health so that we can live highly empowered lives. One of the things that has a tremendous impact on our emotional […]
You’ve Lost Yourself
We hear people say often, “I’ve lost myself” but do we truly understand what it means and why we allow ourselves to do this? Particularly as it pertains to relationships, it is easy to lose ourselves because romantic relationships bring us towards oneness and if we are not emotionally whole, we can become so consumed […]
Black Women- Let’s Destroy Generational Curses that Impact Our Marriages
As a kid, marriage was something that I always desired. However, I never had positive marriages modeled before me. The marriages that I was privy to during my formative years were dysfunctional, toxic, and often on the brink of dissolution. The behavior that I witnessed in these marriages as a child became the behavior that […]
Trauma Bonding
Trauma bonds are found in all types of relationships and are amongst the most poisonous and co-dependent bonds that exist. People that are physical and/or emotional abusers are incapable of maintaining healthy relationships, so they rely on trauma bonds. Abusers establish bonds with those with low self-worth because they need their compliance and in this case, their […]