Have you ever looked back at a past fallout and said to yourself, "I should have handled that differently?" If we are in a relationship with someone, conflict will occur- it happens all of the time. It's how we handle conflict that matters. The problems arise when situations occur that we've never experienced, didn't expect, or hurt deeply. Those are the times that cause us to react out of hurt feelings. Then there are times when we experience a fallout, and our mind relates it to a past situation that feels similar. This unleashes the past hurt and unhealed emotional wounds that lead to violence, rise to the surface. This is what causes us to raise our voice, pop off, lash out, and curse out.