Family Secrets
Dealing with the backlash from the painful secrets that harm Black families “Those secrets that our families do not discuss keep us stuck in cycles of pain. Show me a…
Black Women and Anxiety
Several Black Women Describe How Living With Anxiety Feels “Hyperventilating, dizziness, sweaty palms, heart racing, pacing the floor, irritability, and feeling that fight or flight response kicking in all at…
The Five Types of Friends Every Black Woman Needs by Age 30
Have you ever met a woman who has grown in age but not in maturity? Some of this may be do to unresolved trauma, other reasons include not having the…
Can my Relationships Survive Politics?- Friendships with Those We Don’t Agree with Politically.
There is no doubt we are living during times when many of us look at our neighbors, friends, and colleagues with scrutiny as we question how they casted their vote…
The Wounds of Black Single Parenting
Although I'm not a single mom, I'm a child of one. Therefore, I witnessed, first-hand, the stress and pain that single moms often experience. My mother did not plan to…
Detached Love!
Love with Detachment One of the most freeing principles I have learned is love with detachment/detached love. If only I had learned this principle a lot earlier in my life,…
Signs You Inner Child is Hurting and How to Soothe Her
Healing attachment wounds and childhood trauma Shamon and I have been married for 17 years. For many of those years, we held inside of ourselves a wounded inner child who…
Sis, Stop Holding a Grudge
I used to have an issue with forgiveness. I used to hold grudges like no other. I would completely stop speaking to my offender because I wanted to let them…
Black Women Do We Take Things Personally?
Recently, I was talking to a friend who has a nine-year-old son. She was worried because her son was experiencing a sharp pain in his left side that her doctor…
When Black Women Fight and Attachment Trauma
If you have been following me for some time or know me in real life, you understand that my passion is to support black women and to help all women…