I’m so excited the holidays are finally here! For many of us, the holidays can bring various emotions. Weekly, I will be providing you with some simple tips to help you manage the ebb and flow of emotions during the season. As we celebrate, let’s focus on peace, love, and gratitude.
Tip #1
Pay Attention to Negative Emotions:
I once had a cousin whom I truly despised because of an unresolved conflict over an incident that happened years ago. The only time I had to deal with him was during the holidays, and that was when the worst of both of us would come out. Every time I would see him, my suppressed anger would rise to the forefront of my heart. I would throw shade and make snide remarks towards him, hoping to punish him. I wanted to make sure that he knew that I had not forgotten the incident.
As you can imagine, this made the family holiday festivities toxic. Eventually, the family grew tired of our bickering. After some time, I realized that I had not forgiven him, and it was impacting my behavior and preventing all of us from enjoying the holiday. I also had to realize that it was no longer about him but about the pain I was carrying inside
Pay close attention to how you feel around family and friends. If you find that negative emotions arise when you see a particular person, hear their name mentioned, or when a specific topic or incident is discussed, there may be an unhealed wound that requires your attention. It’s vital to heal those wounds so we will not turn bitter and destroy the relationships that we value.
Don’t let this be you; Take the journey to heal today!
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Love you, sis!
Nij
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